Rebecca Walker and Lily Diamond: Your Creative Power to Write a New Story

December 22, 2020

Rebecca Walker and Lily Diamond: Your Creative Power to Write a New Story

Lily Diamond & Rebecca Walker December 22, 2020

Rebecca Walker is a bestselling author, lifelong activist, and TV and film producer, named one of the most influential leaders of her generation by Time magazine. Lily Diamond is also a bestselling author and a photographer, wellness advocate, and creator of the award-winning blog and memoir cookbook Kale & Caramel. Together, they have written a book called What’s Your Story?: A Journal for Everyday Evolution, published by Sounds True. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami speaks with Lily and Rebecca about the power of the right question to move us in the direction of claiming our narratives and using the power of our imagination to create our future. They discuss the importance of telling our own stories in the ways only we can. They also explore how rewriting the stories we tell about ourselves and our world can ignite the alchemical process of everyday evolution, moving us in the direction of healing society, the Earth, and our own spirits.

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Rebecca Walker is a bestselling author, lifelong activist, and TV and film producer, named one of the most influential leaders of her generation by Time magazine. Lily Diamond is also a bestselling author and a photographer, wellness advocate, and creator of the award-winning blog and memoir cookbook Kale & Caramel. Together, they have written a book called What’s Your Story?: A Journal for Everyday Evolution, published by Sounds True. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami speaks with Lily and Rebecca about the power of the right question to move us in the direction of claiming our narratives and using the power of our imagination to create our future. They discuss the importance of telling our own stories in the ways only we can. They also explore how rewriting the stories we tell about ourselves and our world can ignite the alchemical process of everyday evolution, moving us in the direction of healing society, the Earth, and our own spirits.

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