Lee Holden

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Lee Holden is an internationally celebrated Qi Gong master. He is also a well known television personality who has appeared regularly on PBS. In 2009, he was honored by the International Chi Gong Association. Lee is a licensed Chinese medical doctor and acupuncturist and the co-founder of the Santa Cruz Integrative Medicine and Chi Center.

An instructor in meditation, t’ai chi, qi gong, and stress management, he has recorded dozens of audio and DVD programs and also written a book Seven Minutes of Magic: Recharge Your Body Each Day with Qi Gong. He lives in Santa Cruz, California. For more information about his classes, workshops, and teacher training program, please visit www.holdenqigong.com.

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Rachel Carlton Abrams

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Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is a family practice physician specializing in holistic medicine. A student of Mantak Chia for 20 years, she has co-authored three books on Taoist sexuality with her husband Doug Abrams.

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Tami Simon speaks with Lee Holden, an internationally recognized qi gong master and Chinese medicine doctor. He is also the cofounder of the Santa Cruz Integrative Medicine and Chi Center. Lee has published dozens of books on topics ranging from t’ai chi to stress management. With Sounds True, Lee has created the audio learning series Taoist Sexual Secrets as well as a series on Your Body of Light, and a new home study course and online course Qi Gong for Health and Healing. Lee discusses the self-healing qualities of qi gong, the “secret” qi gong practices that relate to sexuality, in addition to a breathing exercise called “the cleansing breath.” (47 minutes)

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Tami Simon speaks with Rachel Carlton Abrams and Lee Holden. Rachel is a medical doctor, specializing in family medicine, and the author of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman and The Multi-Orgasmic Couple. Lee is a licensed acupuncturist and an internationally known instructor in meditation, t’ai chi, and qi gong. Rachel and Lee discuss the wisdom of ancient Chinese Taoist sexual secrets, and how we can apply these practices to enhance the flow of sexual energy in our bodies. (48 minutes)

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