The Mystery of Holding

Sounds True —

July 21, 2015

There is an ancient longing wired in us as infants to be seen, to be felt, and to have our surging, somatic-emotional world validated by another. When our subjective experience is empathically held, contained, and allowed, we come to a natural place of rest. What is love, really, other than fully allowing the other to be who they are, for their experience to be what it is, and to offer the gift of presence to their unique subjectivity? In this sense, I love you = I allow you.

The late Donald Winnicott, a brilliant psychoanalyst from Britain, used the term ‘holding environment’ to describe the ideal mandala in which growth and development could occur, weaved of the qualities of contact and space. Through making attuned, present-time, somatically-engaged contact with another as they are – and by providing an open, warm sanctuary in which their experience can unfold and illuminate – we become vehicles of love in action.

Simultaneously, by offering the gift of space, we do not interfere with the unfolding of their heart and majestic inner process. We do not pathologize their experience or demand that they be different, change, transform, shift, or ‘heal’ in order for us to love them. If sadness is there, or fear, or despair, or shame, or depression, or profound grief, we will infuse their inner mandala with validation and presence. We will be there for them, but only if they need us. We will not engulf them with the projections of our own unlived life, nor will we unload upon them our own requirements and agendas, arising out of our own undigested psyches and bodies. Instead, we will seed the intersubjective container with tender space.

While not talked about as much, we can provide this same contact and space to ourselves and come to discover that our nature as awareness itself is in fact the ultimate holding environment. You are always, already resting in the majesty of presence and are always, already held – by the beloved – who is none other than your own miracle nervous system, heart, and somatic brilliance. While we may not always understand our experience – and while it may never fit into our ideas, hopes, dreams, and fantasies about the life we were ‘meant to live’ – we can come to trust that it is unfolding according to a unique blueprint which is emerging out of the unseen hand of love. We are invited to practice a radical intimacy with our experience, staying close to our ripe bodies and tender hearts, but not so close that we fuse or overly identify with it. Rest in the very middle and stay astonished at what is being birthed out of the unknown in every moment.

For so many I speak with, there is an undercurrent of aggression towards themselves, a subtle movement of self-loathing, unexamined shame and embarrassment, and a very alive (if not conscious) belief that they are flawed and have failed. Each time we exit our present, embodied experience into thinking, interpretation, blame, resentment, and complaint, we turn from the preciousness and the majesty of what we are. In this movement of rejection, we keep alive the archaic belief that our immediate experience is not valid, that it is not workable, that it is not forming the actual particles of the path of healing, exactly as it is. From one perspective, this may be seen as the ultimate act of self abandonment.

Let us all take a pause on this new day, and from a place of love visualize a holding environment for ourselves, where we grant unconditional permission to make intimate and direct contact with all of our vulnerabilities, with our tender bodies and with our raw hearts, with our unprocessed challenges from the past, and with our less-than-awakened thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.

Let us make the most radical commitment to no longer abandon ourselves, exiting into our conditioned stories and unkind judgments, and inquire with love into the habitual belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with us. As we open our eyes and our hearts to the always, already present holding environment which is our true nature, we behold the drop of grace which pours through the eyes of everyone we meet, including that unknown precious one that we see when we look in the mirror. And then all that could possibly remain is an unshakeable faith in love’s perfection.

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Six Summer Reads You Won’t Want to Miss!

Sounds True — July 3, 2018

After the stillness of winter and the slow waking of spring, summer is a time for getting up, getting out, and getting our hands on what inspires us the most. Here are some recent Sounds True releases for tapping into a life well lived.

1. The Biophilia Effect – Clemens G. Arvay

Summer Super Sale - The Biophilia Effect

This is a book that celebrates our interconnection with nature and shows how to deeply engage the natural world wherever you live to dramatically improve your health. Clemens G. Arvay presents fascinating research, practical tools and activities,

inspiring stories, and more in this accessible guide to the remarkable benefits of being in nature.

Get it here: https://www.soundstrue.com/store/the-biophilia-effect.html

2. The Healing Code of Nature – Clemens G. Arvay

The Healing Code of Nature - Clemens G. Arvay

Human beings are inseparable from the natural world, coevolving with all of life. In order to thrive, we need to nourish this bond. In his latest book, biologist Clemens G. Arvay illuminates the miraculous ways that the human body interprets the living “code” of plants, animals, and our larger natural habitat for healing and sustenance.

Get it here: https://www.soundstrue.com/store/the-healing-code-of-nature.html

3. Book of Beasties – Sarah Seidelman

Summer Super Sale - Book of Beasties

“From an ancient perspective, everything—including all natural things, like rocks, flowers, trees, insects, birds, and mammals

—is alive and infused with conscious energy or spirit,” writes Sarah Seidelmann. If you’re one of the many people looking to reconnect with the creativity, wisdom, and vital energy of the natural world, here is a fantastic guide for tapping into the power of animal totems, or “beasties.”

Get it here: https://www.soundstrue.com/store/book-of-beasties.html

4. No Recipe – Edward Espe Brown

“Making your love manifest, transforming your spirit, good heart, and able hands into food is a great undertaking,” writes renowned chef and Zen priest Edward Espe Brown, “one that will nourish you in the doing, in the offering, and in the eating.” With No Recipe: Cooking as Spiritual Practice, Brown beautifully blends expert cooking advice with thoughtful reflections on meaning, joy, and life itself.

Get it here: https://www.soundstrue.com/store/no-recipe.html

5. Yoga Friends – Mariam Gates & Rolf Gates

Summer Super Sale - Yoga Friends From the creators of Good Night Yoga and Good Morning Yoga comes a beautifully illustrated city adventure that introduces children to the delights and benefits of partner yoga.

Perfect for teaming up with a friend, sibling, parent, or caregiver, each easy practice shows how cooperation helps us to imagine, move, and have fun in a whole new way.

Includes a back-page guide for parents and caregivers, showing how to do each pose and how to connect them into an easy-to-follow flow.

Get it here: https://www.soundstrue.com/store/yoga-friends.html

6. Happier Now – Nataly Kogan

What if you could be happier, right now, without radically changing your life? As nationally recognized happiness expert Nataly Kogan teaches, happiness is not a nice feeling or a frivolous extra. It’s a critical, non-negotiable ingredient for living a fulfilling, meaningful, and healthy life—and it’s a skill that we can all learn and improve through practice. In Happier Now, Nataly shares an illuminating, inspiring, and science-based guide to help you build your happier skills and live with more joy, starting now.

Get it here: https://www.soundstrue.com/store/happier-now.html

Have other books you’ve read by the poolside or under a shade tree ended up changing the way you see the world? Tell us about those summer reads that ended up being more than you expected!

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Singing Bowl Meditation Sounds True Spotify Playlist

Sounds True — November 29, 2017

Sounds True is on Spotify!

Need some tunes for rest and relaxation? Check out our Singing Bowl Meditation Playlist! A variety of artists who make a soothing mix of infinite rhythms using Tibetan singing bowls. Perfect throughout a meditative practice.

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November New Releases and Giveaway

Sounds True — November 20, 2017

NOVEMBER NEW RELEASES

The Integrity Advantage by Kelly Kosow

Are you ready to open up to new levels of self-trust and self-love, to get where you want to go?

You vowed to speak up at work, and then sat silent in the meeting yet again.

You told yourself “this time the diet is going to stick,” only to watch the scale inching up.

You felt that something just wasn’t right about someone that—until you learned the hard way that your instincts were right.

“Every time you bite your tongue,” teaches Kelley Kosow, “you swallow your integrity.”

Before Kelley Kosow was a renowned life coach and CEO, she constantly second-guessed herself, let her “to-do” lists and others steer her dreams and passions, and played it “small and safe.”

Inspired by the groundbreaking principles of her renowned mentor Debbie Ford, who hand-picked Kelley to be her successor, The Integrity Advantage is Kelley’s step-by-step guide for facing the fear, shame, and false beliefs that cause us to lose our way.

Through life-changing insights, true stories, and proven strategies, this book will show you how to live on your own terms—according to you—from the inside out.

Daring to Rest by Karen Brody

As modern women, we’re taught that we can do it all, have it all, and be it all. While this freedom is beautiful, it’s also exhausting. Being a “worn-out woman” is now so common that we think feeling tired all the time is normal. According to Karen Brody, feeling this exhausted is not normal—and it’s holding us back. In Daring to Rest, Brody comes to the rescue with a 40-day program to help you reclaim rest and access your most powerful, authentic self through yoga nidra, a meditative practice that guides you into one of the deepest states of relaxation imaginable.

It’s time to lie down and begin the journey to waking up

Breathe and Be by Anna Emilia Laitinen and Kate Coombs

Teaching mindfulness helps kids learn to stay calm, regulate their emotions, and appreciate the world around them. With Breathe and Be, author Kate Coombs and illustrator Anna Emilia Laitinen team up to present a book of poetry and art for young readers to make mindfulness easy, natural, and beautiful. Here is a book sure to delight parents and kids alike, blending lovingly illustrated nature imagery with elegant verse about living with awareness and inner peace.

Leopard Warrior by John Lockley

A Teaching Memoir That Crosses the Barriers Between Worlds

A shaman is one who has learned to move between two worlds: our physical reality and the realm of spirits. For John Lockley, shamanic training also meant learning to cross the immense divide of race and culture in South Africa.

As a medic drafted into the South African military in 1990, John Lockley had a powerful dream. “Even though I am a white man of Irish and English descent, I knew in my bones that I had received my calling to become a sangoma, a traditional South African shaman,” John writes. “I felt blessed by the ancient spirit of Africa, and I knew that I had started on a journey filled with magic and danger.” His path took him from the hills of South Korea, where he trained as a student under Zen Master Su Bong, to the rural African landscape of the Eastern Cape and the world of the sangoma mystic healers, where he found his teacher in the medicine woman called MaMngwev

Things That Join the Sea and the Sky by Mark Nepo

A Reader for Navigating the Depths of Our Lives

The Universe holds us and tosses us about, only to hold us again. With Things That Join the Sea and the Sky, Mark Nepo brings us a compelling treasury of short prose reflections to turn to when struggling to keep our heads above water, and to breathe into all of our sorrows and joys.

Inspired by his own journal writing across 15 years, this book shares with us some of Mark’s most personal work. Many passages arise from accounts of his own life events—moments of “sinking and being lifted”—and the insights they yielded. Through these passages, we’re encouraged to navigate our own currents of sea and sky, and to discover something fundamental yet elusive: How, simply, to be here.

To be enjoyed in many ways—individually, by topic, or as an unfolding sequence—Things That Join the Sea and the Sky presents 145 contemplations gathered into 17 themes, each intended to illuminate specific situations.

NOVEMBER GIVEAWAY

WIN OUR NEW RELEASE BUNDLE:The Integrity Advantage, Daring to Rest, Breathe and Be, Leopard Warrior, and Things That Join the Sea and the Sky

TO ENTER: Simply reply in the comments with why you’d like to win!

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Breaking away from the idea that there is one “right...

Erica Djossa — February 19, 2024

We live in a wild world with a wealth of information at our fingertips. This means we can read reviews, check forums, and see what other parents are saying about everything we purchase or do for our children.

But that is not always a good thing. There is such a thing as too much research.

I distinctly remember working with a client who had very high expectations around her child’s food. She was concerned with what ingredients were in the food, how it was prepared, how it was served—and anything less than “healthy” felt wrong to her. She was a self-proclaimed perfectionist who wanted the best for her child—she wasn’t going to “lower her standards” at the request of her partner or anyone else.

As a result of her food concerns, she spent hours upon hours extensively researching topics related to food such as GMOs, toxins, ingredients, and safety. Through her research, she also read that stress could decrease her milk supply—so she shut down any conversations when her family tried to approach her about this or how it had taken over her life.

This level of research was no longer about the food—postpartum anxiety was in the driver’s seat, pushing her to search for control.

It’s also important to break away from the idea that there is one “right” way to mother. Just because we have access to information doesn’t mean there isn’t room for nuance. Take “healthy food” as an example. What constitutes a “healthy” diet has been a debated topic for decades and is often a wellness space filled with fads and extremes with each approach contradicting the next. There have been more rules prescribed to our food then I can count that cause people not to trust themselves and leave them seeing food as being good or bad. Food is not black or white. Our approach doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

In my client’s case, research had gone beyond just information-seeking. Sometimes, research is just research. But other times, research is:

Trying to find the “right” or “best” way to do something
Seeking reassurance
Grasping for certainty
Feeding your anxiety
An attempt to soothe your anxiety

I have seen this pattern play out many times with many of my clients. I believe that in many ways intensive mothering prevents us from seeing signs of anxiety. When we interpret perfectionism and the need to avoid mistakes at all costs as being a good mother, we have a lot of pressure to carry. It’s no wonder that so many of us find ourselves in the research rabbit hole.

Does that mean all research is bad? Of course not. But we need to learn the difference between when it’s helping and when it’s not. Researching should be used to provide you with enough information to make an informed decision. It should have boundaries—not be all-consuming.

Excerpt from Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More by Erica Djossa.

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Self-Love is a Superpower

Shauna Shapiro — November 9, 2023

Dear Sounds True friends,

I believe self-love is a superpower.

When we treat ourselves with kindness, it turns on the learning centers of the brain and gives us the resources to face challenges and learn from our mistakes. Transformation requires a compassionate mindset, not shame.

And yet, people often worry that self-love will make them lazy, self-indulgent, or self-absorbed. Science shows just the opposite: people with greater self-love are more compassionate toward others, more successful and productive, and more resilient to stress.

The best news of all: self-love can be learned. We can rewire the structure of our brain and strengthen the neural circuitry of love toward ourselves and others. Each time we practice self-love, we grow this pathway.

My new children’s book, Good Morning, I Love You, Violet!, offers a road map for strengthening your child’s brain circuitry of deep calm, contentment, and self-love.

It is built on principles of psychology and neuroscience and offers a simple yet powerful practice.

As a mother, when asked what I believe is the most important thing we can teach our children, I always answer “self-love.” Learning to be on our own team and to treat ourselves with kindness is life-changing. There is no greater gift we can give our children. There is no greater gift we can give ourselves.

May this book plant seeds of kindness that ripple out into the world.

Shauna Shapiro, PhD

P.S. I invite you to download a free coloring sheet from the book, created by illustrator Susi Schaefer, to enjoy with the children in your life.

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Forest Bath Right Down This Path

Lisa Robinson — April 28, 2023

Dear Readers, I’m excited that my new picture book Forest Bath Right Down this Path is part of the Sounds True Kids collection. It’s a book of my heart as it portrays a fog forest—Barred Island Preserve—that my family and I hike every year on our summer vacation in Maine. I’m thrilled that you can enjoy this forest through the window of Khoa Le’s gorgeous illustrations.

As we wander the forest’s moss-lined paths, we smell pines and firs, touch bark and berries, and listen to birds and chipmunks. The hike ends at a rocky beach where we swim and explore tidepools. When we leave, we feel peaceful and calm. The name for this kind of soothing experience is forest bathing.

There’s evidence that smelling chemicals from trees called phytoncides and microbes from soil called mycobacterium vaccae may reduce stress and boost immune function.

I work as a child psychiatrist to help children, teens, and adults, and I’m always looking for ways to help people manage stress and anxiety. Some of the recommendations I make for doing this include exercise, taking time away from screens, meditating, and connecting with family and friends. I try to do these things myself, too! Every morning I take a half hour walk through the woods near my home.

I’m also a parent of two children (now young adults), and I’ve been concerned about the ways phones and screens are interfering with paying attention to the natural world as well as one another. It’s known that spending a lot of time on social media is contributing to the worsening of teens’ mental health. Adults need to take time away from their phones, too. That’s why the main character of my book, Kayla, encourages her father to put away his phone and fully engage in their walk through their forest. Children want their parents’ undivided attention; often they’re the ones encouraging adults to turn off their phones and be present.

I hope this book inspires you to spend time with your loved ones outdoors and soak in all its beauty and mental health benefits. Happy forest bathing!

Wishing you fresh air and sunshine,

Lisa Robinson

P.S. I invite you to download the free story time kit with five activities for children to learn more about forest bathing—from heading out on a sensory expedition to exploring their senses to making art in nature.

andreia says:

December 5, 2015 at 5:47 am

Hello! thanks for the text! Who is the author? thanks! 🙂

Vicki Albin says:

December 5, 2015 at 6:06 am

Baby Massage has a technique called containment. When the parents see the simplicity and magic of it, their eyes open wide. But when baby offers an opportunity for them, it moves them to a new depth of understanding that is palpable in the room. Beautifully written article. Thank you.

Tina says:

December 5, 2015 at 7:20 am

Just found this… beautifully written, poignant, moving and just the right time for it to land in my awareness. Thank you, Matt.

Lina Cuartas says:

December 5, 2015 at 10:22 am

I have felt this specific current of thought and emotion since the month started, as i massaged and held a beloved child of miine afflicted with self- doubt and sadness, as i watched my better half struggle with duties and self-loathing, as i see the world debate hatred and love; inclusion and rejection; and i dreamed about the christmas offering i have to make this year. i am behind, my revered tradition of making a nativity instead of buying stuff is usually done by the end of november. But, this year has been like a riptide.
i saw what i have always known and voiced in a uniquely beautiful, simple treasure: within its dainty cap of tousled fibers, an acorn, in which, an embryo, still enfolded with the amniotic sac of life, can be clearly seen; tiny, perfect palms and soles discernible, faces in different, subtle, innocent positions and gestures, to remind us all; we are all born and return to the ocean of existence in the same way; seeds of possibility,power and promise, and we are all linked together by invisible but unbreakable threads of causality; We are One.
Today is the day I will make the first babies, playing Creator, and These reminders of Oneness i will not confine to this season of Rebirth; i will continue creating them, sharing them, giving them away to voice their message from Beyond,; the Wise Waters we come from and return to, unavoidably.

Rebecca says:

December 5, 2015 at 1:31 pm

Beautiful

lilliswansonLilli Swanson says:

December 5, 2015 at 2:51 pm

This is absolutely the best article I have EVER read on the love an care of a baby or the baby in us…or anyone, actually!!

00margot says:

December 5, 2015 at 8:35 pm

This is a beautiful description of love.

Serafina Perez says:

December 5, 2015 at 10:18 pm

Another validation,” Angels On Earth.”

bianca schriek says:

December 6, 2015 at 2:18 am

Thanks!

Saras Naidoo says:

December 6, 2015 at 3:30 am

Beautiful.

Rhona says:

December 6, 2015 at 5:17 am

Love this…thank you

Heather Mac says:

December 6, 2015 at 6:28 am

Tears of gratitude for this amazing insight. It is perfect, as is everything. Thank you, love you <3

Samantha says:

December 6, 2015 at 7:15 am

Beautiful reflection, thank you.

madlyn says:

December 6, 2015 at 9:46 am

so beautiful

Rifka Hirsch says:

December 6, 2015 at 11:33 am

Beautiful. Thank you so much for this sharing. It enters my heart … in this perfect moment.

Paige Bartholomew says:

December 6, 2015 at 11:54 am

I’m a therapist. I read a lot. I talk to a lot of people. I study. But it’s been a very long time since I’ve read an article so poetically and potently worded, which speaks of the MOST important topic I can imagine: the ACT of love. As you say, Love is allowing. Love is allowing our self to be as we are. Love is allowing others to be exactly as they are. I appreciate how you outlined some of the pathological (insane) things we do to ourselves and each other. That made the difference between LOVE and NOT-LOVE crystal clear. Thank you with all my heart. <3 Paige

Eric Monroe says:

December 6, 2015 at 12:32 pm

Amazing, thank you so very much. This truly spoke to me and I will share it in the hopes that it will speak to others as well. May we all heal ourselves and help one another to heal as well. Blessed Be!

bcornell says:

December 6, 2015 at 1:21 pm

Thank you! So well spoken…many need to hear and experience this.

BiancaD says:

December 6, 2015 at 4:06 pm

Beautifully written. Thank you ^_^

Leila Kaddouri says:

December 6, 2015 at 4:13 pm

Beautifully written. Thank you.

Heather says:

December 6, 2015 at 4:57 pm

THANK YOU <3 so much.

Sarah MacLaughlin says:

December 6, 2015 at 5:47 pm

Lovely, lovely, lovely.

Rita Bridenstine says:

December 6, 2015 at 6:28 pm

Amen. The essence of peace on earth.

Bhimi says:

December 6, 2015 at 7:17 pm

So eloquent and sensitively said, I could feel each word as it slide from my brain to my heart. Everyone should read that at least 1x everyday.

Inner Compass says:

December 6, 2015 at 7:51 pm

beautiful. thank you.

Harmony Gates says:

December 7, 2015 at 12:21 am

Awesome. Just as I knew and know it is. And receiving physical ‘holding’ can remind us of this somatic, universal loving embrace that our Being holds us in.

pinkartkitchen says:

December 7, 2015 at 7:18 am

beautiful words which resonate deeply

Annie Brook says:

December 7, 2015 at 10:05 am

yes, Matt! Returning to love with that ancient longing satisfied and whole! I have spent a lifetime going back and doing integrative discovery and body-mind work to recover interrupted bonding due to being born early and placed in the NICU without any touch allowed from my mother for 17 days. It is inside out work to reclaim a challenged nervous system and primoridal beliefs that babies set up about whether they are loveable.

The good news is that we really can return to wholeness. I just returned from presenting at BirthPsychology.com to therapists and caregivers. I shared how birth imprints show up in child and adult behaviors, and tools to help individuals, children, or couples. All of this is gathered in my recent book, Birth’s Hidden Legacy. I wrote this to help others have the tools to get to the root of distress that was imprinted so long ago. It has case studies, body-mind theories, and interventions you can use to help yourself or others.

With accessible tools, returning to an internal feeling of love and safety opens the door for the true path of soul into body. You can get Birth’s Hidden Legacy, on Amazon or directly on my web site, http://www.anniebrook.com/shop. Last summer I was fortunate to train teachers at the Montesorri Education Center of the Rockies in Boulder, CO, on on how to work with the infants and children they see, and will present at their national conference in Chicago this coming March. Let’s keep spreading the word and opening the heart.
Joy and love to you…Annie Brook

Joe Costigan says:

December 10, 2015 at 6:37 am

Arthur Janov Phd, The creator of Primal Therapy has written a number of books relating to this and through his therapy resolve or at least lessen much of the repressed emotional pain related to being untouched and unloved.

Aurora Brown says:

December 11, 2015 at 11:09 pm

Thank you! Very appropriate at this time with all the tragedies that are happening globally. This touches my heart and it is so true. Holding environment, unconditional love, room to grow and allowing one to be the best person one can be. Patience, nurturing, global connection to every one.

Kathy Patrice Pitts says:

December 12, 2015 at 8:52 am

Beautifully said. Thank you.

Janice Cathey says:

December 13, 2015 at 7:21 am

As a therapist who specializes in Shiatsu/Watsu/Breema I’ve had the honor to hold space for the unfolding in my life and practice. If you have an opportunity seek a therapist near you who provides somatics it will be worth your energy and time. Blessings to all

Denise Germaine Levinson says:

December 14, 2015 at 5:14 pm

Beautiful ,thank you for sharing!!!!

Tamara says:

December 14, 2015 at 6:55 pm

My Group Therapy in Paris, France, benefited that our psycholgist had BBSOL training, and our group felt this containment each session we had together.

Laura says:

December 16, 2015 at 6:39 am

This is so beautifully written. No matter what happened or didn’t happen to us as infants/children/adults, we can all heal in this way. I do believe there is some divine interface as well, but this holding and be-ing happens in our bodies. Thanks for putting clear words to my holding experience. And let us hold each other in this way too. Peace…

Anahata Giri says:

December 16, 2015 at 8:35 pm

Astonishingly beautiful words. So deeply true. I will read this again and again. Thank you.

Bridget Holding says:

December 17, 2015 at 1:51 am

I am a psychotherapist, and work helping people to express themselves through words ‘wild words’. This is a beautifully written article, on such an important subject. Thank you

Annemcx says:

December 17, 2015 at 12:55 pm

Thank you, from my heart.

Jenny Ridley says:

December 18, 2015 at 1:24 am

This says it all and so beautifully. Now we need to LIVE our lives holding onto these precepts.

Sue James says:

December 18, 2015 at 10:56 pm

There is tendency in this age of the material to think that close bonding with babies and the rest of our species should not be encouraged. Even as adults touch, holding, granting being is one of the most generous and beautiful gifts we can give to each other. We all need each other, Rolando Toro the maverick from Chile used to say that the very best medicine for human beings, is simply “human beings”. When we embrace each other with affection, tenderness, empathy and love, when we allow each other to be who they are without attempting to fix them or mend and to always see the greatness that is present in everyone, Love is what is left in the space. Beautifully written. Thank you

Ted says:

January 12, 2016 at 8:56 am

One of the best definitions of “Love” I’ve come across. The message resonates with me in such a subjective manner that I often want to come back and feel it again. Well done Matt.

Robert logsdon says:

January 15, 2016 at 8:46 am

So good to finally read of you and your work. The article on love is true, beautiful and good.
Robert

Grethe Lund says:

January 20, 2016 at 1:46 pm

Thank you ! This is beautifully written and just what I needed to read now…… I´m sharing…..

Sharman says:

March 18, 2016 at 12:52 am

Its amazing isnt it thst all we need is really at our fingertips! Grace. Thankyou.

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Lilli says:

December 5, 2016 at 5:45 am

Reading this article one year after the first time, is like falling in love all over again…with Life.

Matt Licat says:

December 5, 2016 at 9:57 am

It’s nice to hear from you, Lilli, and than you for sharing your kind words here. with love, matt

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David White-Miller says:

March 8, 2019 at 5:53 am

I read this and cried with joy, sadness and regret at the wasted times filled with anger and remorse

Harmony Gates says:

March 8, 2019 at 10:46 am

I shared this on FB when it first came out…This is also what I’ve discovered and practiced in my life and work. I cannot say it better. I’ve also shared your Blog with many many friends and clients. Thanks Matt

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